Posts by Coffee House Girl

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Jan. 15th WT- Go to Meetings to Fight the Blues- Eliminate other Activities

by flipper in

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our jw contact sent us the " witness only " wt's again and i just had to make a thread on this mind numbing article.

starting on pg.22 in the jan.15th it deals with " coping with discouragement ".

it seems lots of jw's are under intense stress these days ( can you blame them ?

Coffee House Girl

Hi Flipper, they've been playing this same old song and dance for ages...and now that I am separated from that nonsense and can look back on my life in jwland,

I remember those constant articles aimed at barating jw's over and over for "never doing enough"- they just made me increasingly more numb inside- I got to a point where any of the theocratic activities I partook in had no emotional meaning for me...I was just going thru the motions of service, meetings, superficial personal study (aka..underlining paragraphs in my WT)- I got so tired of feeling like I was never good enough that I shut myself down inside.

It has taken me a year or so to wake myself up to focus on issues, stir up a passion inside of me regarding issues that matter to me- such as ideals of democracy and social ethics- the all inclusive idea that we must work together in cooperation as a community to improve our community- this all inclusive idea I was never allowed to entertain as a JW, I feel a beating in my heart and wheels turning inside my brain which make it so easy to wake up in the morning, just to find out what's next in life....not just the same old borring message.

CHG

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Why I stopped the Bookstudy - Field Service from my home

by Witness 007 in

Coffee House Girl

I also had the BS in my home for about 2 years until my exhusband left- I liked not having to leave the house but it was a chore to come home from work early to clean, get the dog to stay upstairs, and then after such a long day of getting things together...people would linger forever- sometimes it was 11:00pm and I would have to say...I have to go to work in the morning- we had a "dating" couple in our bookstudy and they used our kindness as an excuse to hang out "chaperoned" all frickin nite- I would get so frustrated.

on another note....people's comments earlier in this thread made me remember...

I remember my mom telling me when I asked her as a child why we had small groups for some meetings- she said that the bookstudy was our go-to group when Armageddon began...when the sky started falling and people were comming after us to put us in concentration camps- we were supposed to head to our bookstudy groups to get sprititual food and direction from the faithful and discreet slave..

No wonder we are so messed up

CHG

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What was the first single you ever bought, and what are your memories?

by lifelong humanist in

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some light relief!.

even now, i can vividly recall buying my very first 45 rpm single in 1967.. i was only just 15 years old.

i worked as a 'paper boy', delivering newspapers to people living nearby.

Coffee House Girl

Mine was a single on cassette tape- it was the cranberries "linger"- I felt so bad since it was -"alternative" music- I was afraid of getting caught with it and having it thrown out (I heard all those assembly parts about parents burning your tapes if they were too worldly). It was laughable because there was nothing bad about the song- i fell in love with alternative from then on and it was the beginning of a slipperly slope that led me here 16yrs later :) (haha, they were right- wordly music does make you sad, hate your life, and leave the truth)

CHG

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Help: Re: Letter to elders NOT to disfellowship otherwise legal action will be taken

by LouBelle in

hello there everyone.

i remember reading a while back about someone on here ( i think) that wrote a letter to the body of elders & headoffice that they should not take any action to disfellowship them as they would be distancing them from friends and relatives and would proceed to take legal action if the body of elders went ahead.. if anyone has that link or can point me in the right direction i'd appreciate that..

Coffee House Girl

I am only in the "cease and desist" mode right now because the elders admitted to my mom that they were peeking into my windows- I wrote the cease letter to the elder body, registered a copy with the local police department and sherriff department- I explained that the next action from me if this is ignored is a Personal Protection Order. But I know this would not stop them from DFing me...but I sent the letter 3 weeks ago and no response from anyone

The police department was nice and friendly and only commented that their actions were "really messed up".

You can PM me if you want to see any of these letters

CHG

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Front Load Washers. Are they good?

by Iamallcool in

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i have been thinking about getting front load washer for my home, but i have not decided which brand, etc to get.

any recommendations?.

Coffee House Girl

Mad- I think you did really well- $90 a unit is pretty good for surface defects and $539 is about their cost (my store does not go that deep, but it is true that those are last year models and they probably had them on the floor for a while- they really were anxious to sell out that color...those can be the hardest to move, they can sit on this display floor for about a year sometimes)- did they say they were "demo" models? the term "demo" means they were in someone's house and they returned them (and then we put them on the floor because they cannot go back in the boxes), but "display" means that they were just sitting on display-

but the 2301 series has some good feature upgrades-

you can go online and order some LG red paint to go over those scratches if you want, but usually they are not a big deal at all- hell you are guaranteed to scratch them a bit over time when you drag your laundry basket over them-

Good Job

CHG

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I said I would do it and I just did, told my mom I want nothing to do with the org anymore

by Soldier77 in

i would copy and paste my emails with my mom, but that would probably be too revealing.. anyway, i said in a post a while back that i was going to tell my mom i no longer want anything to do with the organization.

there have been a series of emails between the two of us lately and she was probing to see what was going on with me.

i haven't been out in fs in almost a year and i haven't been to a thursday night mtg in over 9 months.

Coffee House Girl

Soldier- It does feel good to liberate yourself of what you have pent-up inside to your mom! you never know how she will react until it happens..but it seems from what you described as past behavior from her...she will still accept you and not "shun" you.

It always seems like a "hard core" dub's first suggestion is to tell the elders everything, she is programmed to think you have to spill your guts all the time...it takes getting a step back from the organization to realize that your life is your own, and "your heart" or I should say "your relationship with God" is no one else's business!

Good luck, keep us posted!

CHG

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Facebook: Local Ruling By Elders in Nearby Congregation

by mentallyfree31 in

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just heard from a friend that a nearby body of elders in their congregation have decided that anybody who is on facebook will not be able to have privleges in their congregation.. hilarious!.

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-mf31-.

Coffee House Girl

Oye vey- facebook is just yet another tool the borg uses to get people on the fringe- they use their "rules" and dismiss people at their own hidden agendas

when i was in the borg about 6 years ago a fellow witness told me my ex was on myspace and that I should look on his page and report to the elders anything I could use to "scripturally free" me from my ex-husband (I couldn't remarry in jdub land until I caught my ex cheating).

So his myspace said that he was a "parent"- I thought that since he and I never had kids that this would be the evidence I needed....what did the elders say to me?

Ah well sister CHG, we cannot speak with him directly to confirm what that you printed out, so this does not count as evidence that would free you at this time...thank you for bringing this to our attention, we will try to help you.

Nothing ever came from the myspace "evidence"- (I left the borg still with the same status as "not scripturally free" to remarry)

and now they are using facebook printouts to hang people (including those who post here on JWN)...it shows they just make it up as they go along and change it at will.....

cult

CHG

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G'day from Oz - My Story

by Gemmel in

hi, i've been lurking for a few days reading the site, interesting stuff ;).

i've been out of the org for 23 years, i was 27 i left an agnostic and became an atheist many years ago.

i knew i was going to leave for 7 years before i did but had stayed in because i didn't want to hurt my family, it hadn't occurred to me that they might shun me.

Coffee House Girl

Welcome & Thanks for sharing- you've been out for a while and it sounds like you have been able to move on from JW rubbish doctrine and develop your own worldview- it is nice to see that you seem mentally healthy and happy. I too get the talk from mom- I am afraid for you to die at armageddon- it is sad to see your loved ones in fear of such a horrible thing (that is not true)- I often don't know what to say....

Look forward to hearing more...Hi from USA

CHG

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Arrangement

by Yan Bibiyan in

arrangement is probably one of the most misapplied words in the wt lingo.

its frequency of appearance in the watchtower alone is 180 times greater than the bible itself (from 2008 wt cd - arrangement is used 2333 times in the watchtower publication vs. only 13 times in the bible).. when speaking of an arrangement, one is conditioned to expect a conscious effort aimed for betterment.. in a musical arrangement for example, musicians put an effort to sequence, harmonize and combine musical instruments into a composition of sounds that best conveys the composers ideas and creative force.

in a flower arrangement, the florist uses individual flowers to put together a visually pleasing bouquet.

Coffee House Girl

Yan- so true and I loved your take on it.....I hadn't thought of that word "arrangement" in a while- it does tickle the back of my throat, transitioning to an up-chuck "arrangement" all over my keyboard

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Spring Is On Its Way!!!

by snowbird in

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friends

it is 64 degees fahrenheit here.

the birds are chirping merrily.

i have enough left out of my pay to buy another jar of natural peanut butter.

Coffee House Girl

Hey Flighing High! Channel 8 news didn't lie-(mmmm....matt kirkwood...my fav weatherman) snow and f-ing freezing temps today- I will hate the commute to GR everyday starting monday to school

CHG